Then I'd kill to be that "fat"
Other than her poor choice in high-waisted unflattering jeans,{What is with those pockets? } there is absolutely nothing wrong with Jessica Simpson. Heaven forbid she is not an emaciated waif wearing Daisy Duke shorts....
Quoted from an E Entertainment article...
"People magazine editor Galina Espinoza and plus-size model Emme sat down with Natalie Morales on TODAY Thursday to shine a light on the disturbing trend that finds otherwise healthy celebrities derided and ridiculed simply for putting a few pounds on.
“Jessica Simpson is becoming part of this trend we call body-bullying,” Espinoza told Morales. “People are cruelly mocking her, making her feel like there is something wrong with her just because she has a slightly fuller figure. It’s something that’s going on increasingly in Hollywood.”
'Scuse me, Emme? This is nothing new! Did you not go to Jr high? I am not sure anyone ever commented on Emme's weight because she has always presented herself as a plus size...I would bet a hundred dollars if she slimmed down, she would get all sorts of press, then heaven forbid she gain again, she would be the subject of the same ridicule. I would love to be half as confident on my plus size body as Emme is in hers. What is the difference in her ability to love herself and most of the rest of societies inability to love theirs? Wish I had that answer.
And we sit and wonder why our adolescent girls have no self-esteem. While I sit and listen to the girls in K's empowerment class, sit and list the reasons why they feel stared upon when they enter a room - "they'll think I am fat", "They think I am ugly", "I am not good enough" ,"they'll think I am weird" - all said last night - it breaks my heart.
These girls, and all of us from toddler on, are exposed constantly to the public picking apart if you will, of anyone who dares to be the slightest bit different than anyone else. Unfortunately, it will never stop. Human nature. And not even just "the price of fame" - all be it cruel and public when it happens to a celebrity, the same thing goes on in our elementary and high schools around the country. I tried desperately to boost K's self esteem in when she was teased and set apart because of her social awkwardness and ADD - my voice was small compared to "everyone" - in her mind- at school, teachers included. My heart breaks to think about the baggae she still carries from those years. I still as a 40 year old adult carry those little voices in my head every day. I personally judge myself by my weight....as much as I try, I can't stop it. That voice.
The women teaching K's empowerment class are teaching the girls to recognize those voices, (harder than it sounds, most of the time you don't even realize what you are thinking), let those voices know they hear them, then they will work on telling them to shut up they are wrong. I am thinking I need to take that lesson too. They are also teaching them positive imagery, something I think we all need to practice as well...mentally picturing yourself acing something you want to do - turning heads in a room, singing, anything.....
I am so glad I "encouraged" although she will say "forced" her to take this class. It is not an over night answer to her problems, but as her teachers say, the seeds will be planted and hopefully give the girls some tools to use to beat down those voices and become the best that can be no matter what.
I wish someone had told me at 14, half the things these women are teaching these girls.
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